tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post6003692030748483053..comments2023-06-28T22:58:28.247+10:00Comments on Sixth In Line: My mother is an alcoholicElisabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-91209591399751303812011-10-21T20:43:48.187+11:002011-10-21T20:43:48.187+11:00Well Glynis, you've left me wondering. What d...Well Glynis, you've left me wondering. What difference does it make, fiction or non fiction? Do you feel more constrained to comment on one over the other? <br /><br />Thanks.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-88186263669911955802011-10-21T06:34:32.466+11:002011-10-21T06:34:32.466+11:00A brave move, thanks for sharing your experience. ...A brave move, thanks for sharing your experience. A great imagery piece of writing...shame it is not fiction.Glynis Peters https://www.blogger.com/profile/01175378917872403609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-27045873942755555952011-10-20T08:38:52.274+11:002011-10-20T08:38:52.274+11:00I don't usually aim to keep people dangling, J...I don't usually aim to keep people dangling, Jane, but it happens sometimes. There's too much to say and blogs can only accommodate just so much. <br /><br />Thanks, Jane.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-2789932844175878092011-10-19T04:01:21.310+11:002011-10-19T04:01:21.310+11:00Room 6A she kept repeating..this picture you paint...Room 6A she kept repeating..this picture you paint makes me cry. I'm glad you aren't going to keep us dangling...xoJane Lancasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10698456568767905170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-67035968443984388842011-10-16T17:49:29.606+11:002011-10-16T17:49:29.606+11:00Thanks for the encouragement here, too Syd.
In ...Thanks for the encouragement here, too Syd. <br /><br />In my family there were more than twelve people affected. When I consider that my parents had nine children and those nine children between them had another twenty three children. So along with spouses and extended families the numbers keep multiplying. Trauma's like that but we can also learn good and helpful things along the way. It need not go on forever, if we can recognise its impact. <br /><br />Thanks again, Syd.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-30151966638132548962011-10-16T11:49:41.003+11:002011-10-16T11:49:41.003+11:00Alcoholism affects about 12 people who are either ...Alcoholism affects about 12 people who are either relatives or friends of the alcoholic. It takes a while to not keep the secrets and to not deny the problem. Glad to be here and to read your blog.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-69123531326489813492011-10-16T10:03:19.939+11:002011-10-16T10:03:19.939+11:00It's good to see you here, Angela and many tha...It's good to see you here, Angela and many thanks for your good wishes from so far away. It's wonderful that we can connect within the blogosphere from so many distant places and states of mind.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-87809788383408764552011-10-16T10:01:15.502+11:002011-10-16T10:01:15.502+11:00You're right, Jim. It's unfinished. Much...You're right, Jim. It's unfinished. Much of what I post online is unfinished. <br /><br />It's one of the joys of blogging as far as I can see to leave things slightly hanging, but maybe this was too much so. <br /><br />In any case I shall post another piece more in the present. <br /><br />I was trying to compare memories/experiences of Alateen then and now .<br /><br />See what you think, Jim and thanks.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-85252580601020725032011-10-16T09:57:46.560+11:002011-10-16T09:57:46.560+11:00Thanks Susan. I've tried to use the medium, a...Thanks Susan. I've tried to use the medium, as you say, effectively but I can see that I've also left people dangling to some extent and therefore I need to say more. It will follow. <br /><br />Thanks again.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-35048050696444660952011-10-16T09:56:06.553+11:002011-10-16T09:56:06.553+11:00I suppose it helps to shift us out of the isolatio...I suppose it helps to shift us out of the isolation of our lives, Ruth, this writing about past experience and hopefully it also links us to others.<br /><br />Thanks, Ruth.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-43830781981346353582011-10-16T02:19:16.365+11:002011-10-16T02:19:16.365+11:00Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and for ...Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and for introducing yourself. I am so glad to meet you. Your writing is incredibly compelling. I realize all too well how difficult it must be to write about such personal and difficult topics. <br /><br />Wishing you peace, in mind and body. And sending warmest greetings from Wisconsin, USA.angela recadahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171018304392191669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-59382703001726038492011-10-16T02:10:38.912+11:002011-10-16T02:10:38.912+11:00I echo the words of Tabouleh.
If writing is your ...I echo the words of Tabouleh.<br /><br />If writing is your medium, then this is the way in which to release and to share.<br /><br />I have written some of my childhood in the past, but when I was youger and just to have it written there for me to make sense of, as much as possible, later.agujahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15857809123531088629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-35142221194013349652011-10-15T23:55:55.409+11:002011-10-15T23:55:55.409+11:00Several others have already expressed my main thou...Several others have already expressed my main thought here, that is a piece of writing cut off just when it was getting interesting. I also think that last paragraph would be far more powerful if it was told completely in Damien’s voice. But it badly needs a reaction to cauterise the wound be it the response of the person in charge or the narrator; we want to know what she’s thinking, to see how she’s been affected by this revelation. Is she aghast or does she shrug her shoulders and think, <i>But isn’t that what</i> every <i>house is like? Why all the fuss? </i><br /><br>Jim Murdochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12786388638146471193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-76726546110699003802011-10-15T23:31:48.041+11:002011-10-15T23:31:48.041+11:00elisabeth, i am listening. your subject line grabb...elisabeth, i am listening. your subject line grabbed me in that, uhoh part of my lower digestive system. <br />as i've said before and will continue to say: what you do here, and particularly how you do it, is to my mind a singularly brave and important use of this medium.susan t. landryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12454487318141469849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-63698138916989912102011-10-15T20:50:38.906+11:002011-10-15T20:50:38.906+11:00To know that one is not alone in this experience p...To know that one is not alone in this experience provides a window, a release out of the confinement of feeling confused and isolated. It helps a lot, I think.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204074161539605133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-6587608558589638462011-10-15T17:32:22.337+11:002011-10-15T17:32:22.337+11:00Thanks for the invitation, Ms Moon. I've just...Thanks for the invitation, Ms Moon. I've just now visited Syd's blog and I'm pleased to have done so. His blog is certainly one that seems worth following. <br /><br />Three are so many affected by the ravages of alcoholism.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-38069426073299129242011-10-15T17:26:14.401+11:002011-10-15T17:26:14.401+11:00As I just now said to Kirk, Karen, this is only th...As I just now said to Kirk, Karen, this is only the beginning. Where it goes is only half written. Even I don't know fully what might transpire through the writing and in my memory.<br /><br />Thanks, Karen.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-74708557388151166892011-10-15T17:24:43.722+11:002011-10-15T17:24:43.722+11:00You're right Kirk, it is only part of the stor...You're right Kirk, it is only part of the story - a beginning reflection on Alateen. There's more to come.<br /><br />Thanks, Kirk.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-48588343271041851662011-10-15T17:23:14.650+11:002011-10-15T17:23:14.650+11:00My mother kept my father's drinking from the r...My mother kept my father's drinking from the ret of her family for years, too, Ellen. It seems the way of it, as River said earlier, to hide our shame, we try to protect others often in unhelpful ways. Only when it is out in full view that the healing can take place, otherwise it tends to fester underground.<br /><br />I hope your sister is over the worst, Ellen, Thanks.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-13808532492406560902011-10-15T17:20:59.023+11:002011-10-15T17:20:59.023+11:00Children suffer, Kath, more than we realise and ye...Children suffer, Kath, more than we realise and yet children can be so extraordinarily resilient. <br /><br />It's not an excuse to inflict pain or suffering on them but it helps to recognise the resilience in us all, both as children and as adults. <br /><br />Thanks, Kath.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-5241371141911487062011-10-15T17:18:48.211+11:002011-10-15T17:18:48.211+11:00I agree, River, children often feel alone in their...I agree, River, children often feel alone in their misery. <br /><br />When I was young I could not imagine that anyone else at my school would know about our experiences within my family household. <br /><br />It was only as an adult that I came to realise there were others in the same boat. And only years later still when I realised we all have our difficulties, whatever form they take. <br /><br />Thanks, River.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-8845059093095373532011-10-15T17:15:33.309+11:002011-10-15T17:15:33.309+11:00I hope there's hope there, Steven, if only in ...I hope there's hope there, Steven, if only in the writing and the effort to describe a story, or at least part of a story - my own and that of others.<br /><br />Thanks, Steven.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-20574866491844806142011-10-15T17:14:10.219+11:002011-10-15T17:14:10.219+11:00Shame is such a tricky emotion Jane. As you imply...Shame is such a tricky emotion Jane. As you imply, it gets to all of us. <br /><br />I reckon shame is contagious and often those who bear it most heavily are those who should be protected, while the ones who shame should be left to feel ashamed. <br /><br />Equally, the effects of alcoholism are shaming for all concerned, including the alcoholic, particularly when sober. <br /><br />Thanks, Jane.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-63387912072162066292011-10-15T17:10:46.771+11:002011-10-15T17:10:46.771+11:00The doing of it is everything, John from Penal col...The doing of it is everything, John from Penal colony, as you suggest, and I know this piece is unfinished, left dangling. <br /><br />I'll work at it but I'm not sure there will ever be a half decent conclusion. <br /><br />Thanks, John.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28133718.post-48561640812124672022011-10-15T14:37:13.603+11:002011-10-15T14:37:13.603+11:00Thanks, Tabouleh. This is just a beginning, as yo...Thanks, Tabouleh. This is just a beginning, as you say, with maybe more to follow. Soon perhaps.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.com